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Principle 7: Reserve a daily time with God for self-examination, Bible reading, and prayer in order to know God and His will for my life and to gain the power to follow His will.

Step 11: Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and power to carry that out.

  In the past I heard a sermon series on Luke 24. In verse 13 the story known as the road to Emmaus begins. In brief it is the story of two of Jesus’ disciples. The lesser know variety but none the less devout followers who were basically in shock from the recent crucifixion. As they were walking along they were discussing the recent events when Jesus strolled up beside them and joined in their conversation. Acting like he wasn’t aware of what happened till they related their version of what they had seen happen. You see they thought their messiah was coming to wipe away the Roman rule and establish an earthly kingdom. Restore justice and right standing for the chosen of God. They watched in horror as their own religious leaders handed him over to the Romans and they crucified him. Talk about dreams being shattered.  They related to Jesus how after his crucifixion that he had been laid in a tomb only to come up missing a few days later. They were so disillusioned and confused. Even though they were taught the Old Testament prophesies they still were lost and unaware of what the future was all about. So they were headed back to Emmaus to pick up where they left off, virtual prisoners in an enemy occupied country. Not in any way good but familiar. Not too challenging, but it was what they had grown use to accepting.

Sound at all familiar?

That’s relapse. It starts gradually,

subtly.  It starts by going back to what is old and familiar.

Maybe you find yourself looking up an old friend on Facebook.

Or maybe you find yourself casually almost accidentally cruising by an old hangout or watering hole than kind of looking maybe seeing if you recognize someone you knows’ car or looking at the door to see if you recognize anyone coming out.

You start with thinking about how good the old days were.

 I  go back to what I’ve known the longest when I lose sight of what God is doing in my life and it’s not looking the way I thought it would or it’s taking longer than I thought. What he has promised is His plan for my life is not as clear….  (to read whole lesson click here

Lesson 20

 “Watch and pray so that you do not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak.” Mark 14:38:

Principle 7: Reserve a daily time with God for self-examination, Bible reading, and prayer i
n order to know God and His will for my life and to gain the power to follow His will.
Step 10: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
 “So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!” (1 Corinthians 10:12)

*Daily self examination = daily inventory

Why Journal:

  • ·         To see patterns identify triggers 
  •           To see the exact nature of my wrongs (so that I can become willing to have God remove them)
  •           To have something I can cross off
  • ·          To helps  me to process better
  • ·          To zero in on my stuff (using I statements).

 

Tips to Getting Started

 

  • ·         Start with one positive thing that I did (#1 can be “I’m writing my journal)
  • ·         Have someone help you be accountable
  • ·         have a time and place set aside just for journaling
  • ·         use a timer, limits on time keep me from hyper focusing , or feeling overwhelmed
  • ·         Keep it simple (no editing necessary, doodle, draw, scribble..it’s yours)
  • ·         Use a check-up list to help you:

           

CR suggest using  the Fruit of the Spirit:

 “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” Galatians 5:22–23,

 

Daily ask yourself any of these questions to prompt your writing, starting each question with the word Today:

  •   Did I act in loving ways?  How was I un-loving to someone?
  •  Did I act in ways that revealed my  joy  of the Lord?  If not why not?
  •   How was my serenity, my peace? Did anything happen that caused me to lose it? What was my part in it?
  •  Was I patient? What caused me to lose my patience? Do I owe anyone amends?
  •  Would anyone say that I was kind/good? In what ways did I act unkind?
  •  How was my faithfulness?  Did I keep my word with everyone?
  •  How was my gentleness and self-control; was I under control?

( Better yet; Under God’s control)?   Did I lose my temper; speak a harsh or unkind word to someone?   

 

Notice that these questions are about ACTIONS We are not making amends for how we think or feel.

  ..“‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart … soul and … mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:37-40

 “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.”  James 1:22

  “Our very lives were further proof to you of the truth of our message…”            1 Thessalonians 1:5 (TLB),

 

These 3 scriptures remind us that we “may be the only Bible people will read.”  Principal 7 is about relationships. 
 Isolating may keep your own side of the street clean, but we are called love others.  

 

Types of Inventory:

Ongoing: make amends as soon as you are made aware

Daily: check in with God and yourself every day

Periodic: review several months of journals celebrate and seek God’s intervention

 

Bible verses to learn and follow for step 10:

 “Intelligent people think before they speak; what they say is then more persuasive.” (Proverbs 16:23, GNB)

“Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word, nor unwholesome or worthless talk (ever) come out of your mouth, but only such (speech) as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others.” (Ephesians 4:29, AB)

“A wise, mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words, the more persuasive he is.” (Proverbs 16:21, GNB)

“A word of encouragement does wonders!” (Proverbs 12:25, TLB)

“If I had the gift of being able to speak in other languages without learning them, and could speak in every language there is in all of heaven and earth, but didn’t love others, I would only be making noise.” (1 Corinthians 13:1, TLB)

 notes from Celebrate Recovery® Lesson 20 Daily Inventory

 

Step 10
 We continued to take a personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. 
“So if you think you are standing firm be careful be careful that you don’t fall!”
Corinthians 10:12

I  was handling fuses..spinning them, plugging them in.   When I went to turn the  power back on..it was already on

It was amazing that I didn’t touch anything live or any bare parts (nearly impossible) …or if I did touch anything;  I didn’t get shocked.   I would have known because I  would have been zapped with not the typical 115 volts found in household receptacles but 480 volts and 20 amps of current,  which enough voltage to seriously burn a person and send them flying across the room into who knows what.    I know because I am the one who posts ( and was actually in the process of posting)  the safety signs: caution exposed energized parts, danger, qualified personnel only allowed in this enclosure.  Internationally recognized signs showing a big explosive lightening monster with a silhouette of a man falling down.

Yup,  I should have been wearing gloves. 

God takes care of stuff.  

It reminded me of just how close God is and how involved he is in my life.  I know he cares and has a plan for my life.  And even when I don’t realize my  foolishness,  He is watching after me.  He is always close.

 

 

“People make mistakes..People are not mistakes.”

disclaimer (to my electrician colleagues):  this comes under the heading of allowing myself to be seen as foolish for the sake of the Gospel

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words and slander as well as malicious behavior. Instead be kind, tenderhearted, forgiving one another just as God through Christ has forgiven you” Ephesians 4:26-27

I recently was reminded to consider the tone of voice I use with my family.   Hearing how someone had noticed a shift in how they talked to their family as a result  coming to meetings, I thought it would be not only desirable to talk to my spouse with the same kindness I showed strangers, but to speak to him with the same secret intimacy we shared at the beginning of our relationship when it was, “us and ‘them’”. 

There was a time that I struggled with rage on more than a weekly basis.  It was because of the work God did in me through recovery that I have been rage free for over 5 years.    AA teaches an acrostic that has helped me in this area.  H  A  L  T   Halt reminds me that my tendency to rage, or act out can be triggered when I am  too

Hungry

Angry

Lonely

Tired

 “Don’t Sin by letting anger gain control over you, don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry for anger gives a mighty foothold to the devil” Ephesians  4:26-27

I see more clearly the importance of not only starting my day with God, but  before ending it;  it is important to check in with him as well.  So even if I have been so caught up in the business of the day, at the end of each day I can check in with myself and God and put myself in his hands.  Remembering that it is God who feeds me, gives me peace, is my companion, and gives me rest can release me to give my spouse the same break I give to strangers. 

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I  don’t know which is more of  a trial…overcoming relapse or getting that first chip (be it a first thirty day, first year, etc).    I didn’t understand what people meant when the said it took them 5 years to get their first 1 year chip, but after struggling with relapse…I get it.  Today I found 2 encouraging scriptures.   I remember feeling doomed at times in my recovery.  (Would I ever get my 30 day chip, or was I ever truly “sober”).  It  was during those times that  I dreaded checking in with myself and my accountability team to confess that I “fell short” in  my sobriety.

Today’s step 10 devotional reminded me about the importance of repeated forgiveness…for myself.

Peter asks Jesus, “Lord how often should I forgive someone who sins against me?  Seven times?”  “No, not seven times, ” Jesus replies, ” but seventy times seven!”  (Matthew 18:21-22)

I am reminded that if this is to be our attitude toward others, then it should also be the attitude I should have toward myself.  After all,  when it comes to relapse for me, it is a sin against myself.  Paul also writes in Romans 5:3-5:

” We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems, and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance.  And endurance developes strength of character, and character, strengthens  our confident hope of salvation…For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy spirit to fill our hearts with his love.”

So each time I am faithful to admit my sin, and accept God’s forgiveness; I can rejoice that God is building character in me.   I can be sure of God’s commitment to me.  Accepting this I can hold my head high, and continue in the work he has set out for me.  If I remember this, the enemy can not use shame,  to tempt me into giving up.   After all, each trial is a trial of faith.. more than of substance or character..For I know nothing good lives in me.  And as I step out in  faith, and I use the tools  I have acquired along the way I can be sure to make progress.