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Updated Definitions of Sobriety Celebrate Recovery® 2006

A Definition of Codependent Sobriety for Men

Codependent sobriety is somewhat different from other sobrieties,

because we do not have a substance from which to abstain. Our

addiction is more relational in nature. The key is learning how to have

healthy relationships and how to establish and enforce appropriate

boundaries. Those healthy boundaries will help us accurately define

where we end and another person begins.

Codependent sobriety is a faithful commitment to consistently

work the program; including working through the CR Step Study

Group, steady attendance at the Large Group Meetings, and to

maintain our responsibility to a Sponsor and our Accountability

Partners. We advocate journaling, daily inventory, transparency

and rigorous honesty.

A Definition of Codependent Sobriety for Women

In the Women’s Codependent group, our definition of sobriety is:

We are earnestly working our program. We are learning as much as we

can about codependency so that we can recognize our behaviors and ask

God to help us improve. We are attempting to depend only on the

opinion of God, not other people.

Thirty days of sobriety would include attending at least 3 out of 4

Friday night meetings during that period. Another reflection of sobriety

would be attending and completing a Step Study.

Financial Sobriety

Living by God’s Financial Guidelines:

• Tithe 10%

• Save 10%

• Living on 80%

A Definition of Sobriety from Anger

We realize that anger is a God-given emotion and that we must learn to

deal with this emotion in a Christlike manner. Even Jesus got angry,

but it is how we use that anger that is important. Using it in a healthy

way will help keep us sober. Attending the Men’s Open Share Anger

Group will provide a safe place to share your hurts, habits and your

anger. As you attend more of the meetings, you will be better able to

identify the root cause of your anger. One of the tools that men can use

to gain control of their tempers and avoid the toxic result that comes

from losing your temper is to “give Jesus a nano-second.” This tool

and others are shared during the group meeting. Attending the group

at least three times a month, is critical, as you learn to master the art

of “showing up.” We let everyone in attendance know that “the issue

is not the issue” and when they are asked to share, they should dig

deep and allow God to help them break the anger cycle. We need to

remember that in life there is ‘fair pain’ and ‘unfair pain.’ In the Men’s

Anger Group, we learn to differentiate between the two, praying to

God to show us how to develop the tools to find a way out of our

unhealthy behaviors.

COSA Sobriety

• A state of confidence resulting from a reliance and trust

in God and myself.

• Focusing on God and relying on Him to meet my needs.

• Letting go of control and trusting God for the outcome.

• Not taking responsibility for the addict’s behavior

or recovery.

• Allowing the sex addict to be responsible for his own

actions and recovery—no rescuing.

• Being honest with myself about my need to be in recovery.

• Minding my own business: no checking up on or spying on the

addict, trusting that God will reveal any necessary information.

• A commitment to growth through prayer, educational

reading and accountability.