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Rest in Submission

Three times I have started this post (… ok now four five….)

but I am going to keep moving forward. After all, my job is

to do the writing …not judge the writing.

Yesterday, I think that God was trying to get my attention. I started my morning reading a lesson (devotional) in my Life Recovery Bible. I read where Jesus says:

“Come to me all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and let me teach you because I am humble and gentle at heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear and the burden I give you is light.” –Mathew 11:28 (NLV)

The commentary was called Submission and Rest. I see now that the lesson was reminding me that there was rest in submission. But at the time I was thinking about how in recovery I do not have to be alone. I have discovered how God brings healing when I am safe to share with another person what I may have otherwise censored as too personal, silly, petty, dumb, ridiculous, or embarrassing. It is no wonder why the Bible says:

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1John 1:9 (NASB)
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How to Clean Burnt on Caked on Food from Cookware

There was a time when I’d sooner throw away a burnt pan then try to clean it. There were however, several occasions where I did try to scour and scrub a pot or skillet with little hope of it ever sparkling again. It may have been given a hiding place of shame in the back of a cupboard, but eventually if not immediately it would end up in the trash heap.

However, lately I have spent a lot more time in the kitchen, reacquainting myself with good home cooking, and in the process finding myself attached to some beautiful stainless steel skillets and pots that my husband brought into the marriage. Tossing them, or hiding them away is not an option I would consider, so I have found through trial and error how to actually clean them up with little or no “elbow grease”. So now when I discover that my unattended food is melting into a tarry black layer of crusty gunk at the bottom of my favorite skillet I don’t go into panic mode. I realized that the same principles for treating a burn your eyes, stinky, burning pot, applies to relationships.
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Few approaches to addiction generate as much controversy as 12-Step recovery. On one side are the ardent supporters of the program, some of whom credit it with saving their lives. On the other side are the critics and those who found that the program didn’t resonate with them or even hindered their recovery. Both have valid points, and both, in the end, are seeking answers to a problem that defies easy solutions.
Although it is by no means a perfect program, many of the objections to 12-Step recovery are based on widespread misconceptions. Let’s clear up a few of the most common misunderstandings:

#1 You have to be religious or believe in God to make the program work.

Though some have openly criticized 12 step programs as being too secular , the 12 Steps contain numerous references to God or a higher power, and some meetings conclude with a prayer. The Steps were actually conceived from a Christian point of view, however because the core principals were believed to be something that could benefit those of other faiths, references to specific deities discouraged and the texts and concepts are left open to interpretation. Still , being founded on Christian principals it no surprise that the 12 steps have benefitted millions of people. .
Celebrate recovery specifically recognizes Jesus as the Higher Power. Even with that, many non-Christians and Christians struggling in their faith have benefited from the 12 step program. offered through Celebrate recovery.

#2 Powerlessness frees the addict from accepting responsibility.

The loss and negative consequences related to addiction touch every part of a persons life. Those who are addicted often face among other things, job loss, financial legal troubles, relational problems, and health problems. While the initial choice to use drugs or alcohol is within the individual’s control, once physical or psychological dependence sets in, they have lost control. Powerlessness occurs because prolonged drug abuse changes the structure and function of the brain, learned behaviors, relational patterns, and emotional health. It takes time in sobriety to repair the damage.
Powerlessness does not mean that the person with addictions is inherently flawed, exempt from thinking for themselves or incapable of recovery. Recovery does rely on God to come in and fix everything. Recovery involves taking steps toward changing and improving. To say that those who struggle with addiction are powerless, flawed or incapable of making choices, would contradict the entire premise of the 12-Step program. The powerlessness is a statement about the nature of the disease, designed to remove the blame and shame that often prevent addicts from getting help, and to show addicts one way of reclaiming power over their lives.

#3 Addicts substitute their addiction with a dependence on 12-Step meetings.

Many from 12 step meetings find the support and fellowship they desire. In meetings some find a place to encourage others, be encouraged, and connect with their self and others. It is no wonder that those in committed to their recovery may are enthusiastic about their meetings. Addicted or not, everyone needs support. The 12 step meetings are safe place to build support in the midst of recovery and hardships. Individuals are free to come and go as much or as little as they want. The ongoing participation in a program that is improving peoples lives is a far cry from the destructive nature of other dependencies.

#4 The 12-Step program is a cult.

Twelve-Step programs have overarching principles and traditions that may seem unusual to people unfamiliar with addiction and recovery. It is a close-knit group of people who share similar struggles, but this does not make it a cult. People are free to participate or not, and to take what works for them and leave the rest. There is hope that participants will embrace the wisdom of some of the 12-Step principles but they are also encouraged to think critically and to find their own way.

#5 There are too many rules.

Twelve-Step recovery is full of guiding principles and suggestions, but there are actually very few rules. Working the Steps is a choice participants make, of their own volition, every day. You can come and go as you choose, adapt the program to suit your needs, and if you relapse, the group will welcome you back with open hearts.
The 12-Step principles are not random or haphazard. Rather, they address specific deficits in learning, memory, empathy and other areas impacted by drug abuse. Sharing stories, along with routinely scheduled meetings and oft-repeated mantras, for example, help addicts remember the next right thing to do even when their thinking is still clouded by drugs.

#6 Twelve-Step recovery is losers, people lacking faith, people with no friends, and people who are too weak to do it on their own.

This misconception is based on inaccurate and outdated information. Addiction is a chronic, progressive illness, not an issue of willpower, and it affects all types of people. The opposite of weak, it takes tremendous strength and courage to reach out for help. Some people may be able to recover on their own, but most cannot – and there is no shame in that.
People struggling with addiction often feel they are different, better or less damaged than the people they meet at 12-Step meetings. In a group as diverse as is typically found in a 12-Step meeting, it would be surprising to instantly connect with, or even agree with, the perspectives of every member. You may look different on the surface but inside, the people in 12-Step recovery are fighting to stay clean just like you. Even if their stories are different, the underlying messages, struggles and goals are similar. Sometimes it takes more than one meeting, or a change in meetings to connect.

#7 Twelve-Step programs don’t work.

There are different schools of thought when it comes to addiction. The 12 step recovery has a long history and an abundance of testimonies as to it’s effectiveness. The Steps are not for everyone, but those who give it a fair try find that recovery Is not just about stopping an isolated behavior, but learning a new way of life.

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The Inland Vineyard Fellowship’s Celebrate Recovery is right in step with God’s work of recovery!

As Vineyard culture thrives on Compassion and Mercy

Compassion and Mercy We accept into our fellowship any person moving towards Christ in their pursuit of genuine human life. We welcome “sinners”, trusting the Holy Spirit to draw anyone’s heart to Him through worship, the Word, and love. God’s mercy always triumphs over judgment (James 2:13; John 8:1-11).

…Celebrate Recovery recognize this sinful world for what it is, welcoming one another into a more conscious contact with God, restoring one another with the love and grace we ourselves have experienced.

As the Vineyard has a culture of Equipping believers… .

Equipping God calls and enables believers to express the talents, gifts, and ministries that He has set aside for them, therefore we integrate Biblical truth into everyday activities that impact our community (Eph. 4:11-13).

…Celebrate Recovery equips us with the tools to break free from the hurts, habits and hangup’s that keep us from experiencing our gifts and talents. Our journey in the 12 steps is only a small testimony of how God uses us to carry His message to others

As Vineyard has a culture of Caring for People… .

Relationships Caring for people is our highest priority after submission to God, because the purpose of the cross was the redemption of men and women. To the best of our ability we will treat each person with respect, dignity, and loving patience – always seeking what is best for their life and growth (Rom. 12:9-13; 1 Cor. 13:4-9; Col. 3:12-14).

…Celebrate Recovery recognises the one and only higher power, Jesus Christ has the power to transform our lives if we submit to His will. Celebrate recovery does not seek to “fix” people, but seeks to build relationships that encourage and support one another in confidence

AS Vineyard has a culture of Generosity

Generosity We are stewards of God’s gifts and resources (Matt. 10:8, 39; 13:45-46) which means that when God directs, we will be willing to give away what we have, to risk the security of current success in order to advance the Kingdom of God on earth in greater ways.

…Celebrate Recovery recognizes that in order to keep what God has given us we must give it away. It is in this that we share our experience, strength and hope with one another.

As the Vineyard has a culture of desiring to be naturally supernatural

Simplicity We want to be “naturally supernatural”, avoiding behavior that draws attention away from God and to ourselves. Simplicity affects our worship style, how we pray for the sick, minister to the poor, carry out discipleship, teach the Bible, and so on (1 Cor. 2:2-5; James 3:13; 1 Thess. 4:11-12).

…Celebrate recovery has a saying, “don’t quit until the miracle happens”. The miracle happens in the peace and serenity that comes as we draw near to God and experience his redemptive power.

As the Vineyard culture is willing to take risks

Risk-Taking and Mistakes We are willing to let people make mistakes as they grow in their gifting. We know that gifting develops in an environment of trial-and-error, so we are willing to be patient with people’s weaknesses and failures while they learn (John 21:15-19; Gal. 5:22-23)

.…Celebrate Recovery teaches us that “it is ok to be messy”, and that “our best today is good enough” Recovery is about progress, not perfection and we learn that our “failures” in God’s grace, our “failures” do not defeat us.

Our Sunday Celebration Services are held at 9am and 11am in the Sanctuary. We welcome you to come and join us! We are the Inland Vineyard – a Christian Church, California.
Service Times: 9am & 11am

   Thanksgiving often brings challenges.  Traditionally,  our friends at Crossroads’ CR  gets together the friday after Thanksgiving to share food and testimonies of gratitude. 

     This year, the Vineyard Fellowship is blessed to host Crossroads as we welcome them to our church on Friday  at 6:30 Nov.23,2012

Its a family event.  Come be blessed.

 I am considering joining this class can I start in the anytime? 

Yes,   Celebrate Recovery  is more than  a bible study class.  Celebrate Recovery provides a place to learn,  to practice, to share,  and to serve all year round.  Anyone is welcome to be involved at anytime.  Each journey starts the day you walk in.     

 Is Celebrate Recovery only for alcoholics and drug addicts?

No,  while many people who struggle with alcoholism and chemical dependency find a home with Celebrate recovery, this ministry is open to people from all backgrounds with all kinds of hurts, habits and hang-ups, including co-dependency,  sugar addiction,  family problems, divorce,  overspending, and overworking to name a  just few.

I’m not comfortable sharing with strangers all the details of the issues I struggle with.  Is this ok?  

Yes, We understand that most people have a difficult time addressing their own personal struggles, much less sharing them with a group.  Regardless of the what stage you are of recovery you are in, you’ll always be accepted for who you are at Celebrate Recovery.  We trust that you’ll find it safe to open up about your struggles as God leads you.   

Do I have to believe in God to attend Celebrate Recovery? 

 No.   Celebrate Recovery is a Christ Centered recovery program.  However, we recognize that not everyone who attends Celebrate recovery believes in Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour.  Regardless of religious beliefs or backgrounds everyone in search of recovery will find acceptance and encouragement at Celebrate Recovery. 

Is there any kind of child care during the meetings?

Yes.  Free childcare is provided during our Wednesday Night at the Well meetings.    

I’m interested in learning more about Celebrate Recovery.  How can I receive more information:  

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Does My “Ex” Want Me Back?

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“Give and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full–pressed down shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.” Luke 6: 38

I had one of those “my ex-wants me back dreams” the other night. If you have not experienced one of these, I liken it to the dreams where I make a regrettable choice. I have one such dream where, being an ex smoker, I casually light up a cigarette. I feel at first, caught by the surprise of the feeling of satisfaction as I draw in a breath. But this is quickly disrupted by a sense of foreboding and instant remorse. All of the “ex wants me back dreams” are the same. Things seem casual and light, then my dream mind starts reeling knowing I am about to make bad choice.

That all said, this “ex-wants me back” dream was not like that at all. This dream was different. I did not have the predictable emotions: like the satisfaction “winning” my ex back or the confusion of making choices I was not given in real life. So, I woke up puzzled. I found that in the dream, I was just simply (more…)

In the first principle, we admitted we were powerless. Now in the second principle, we come to believe God exists, that we are important to Him, and that we are able to receive God’s power to help us recover. It’s in the second step we find HOPE!

Higher Power Our higher power is Jesus Christ.

“Everything comes from God alone. Everything lives by his power.” Romans 11:36,
“My grace is enough for r you: for where there is weakness, my power is shown the more completely.” 2Corinthinas 12:9..

Openness to change:

“Now your attitudes and thoughts must all be constantly changing for the better. Yes, You must be a new and different person.” Ephesians 4:23

Power to change:

“For I can do everything God asks me to with the help of Christ who gives me the strength and the power.” Philippians 4:13
“Lead me; teach me; for you are the God who gives me salvation. I have not hope except in
you.” Psalm 25

Expect to change:

“I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping
you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus
Christ return.” Philippians 1:6
“Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we don’ to see.”
Hebrews 11:1

Principle Happy are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted” (Matthew 5:4)

Step 2: We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. “For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose” (Philippians 2:13)
2: Earnestly believe that God exists, that I matter to Him, and that He has the power to help me recover.

This week consider the following:
• In the past where were you looking for hope?
• What is your current belief about God’s characteristics?
• Compare and contrast God with your Earthly father. Compare and contrast your feelings for God vs. and your earthly father taking this step, where were you trying to find hope?
• How can knowing Jesus help you step out of denial and into reality?
• out of your denial and face reality?
• What are things are you ready to change
• in your life?
Anyone who comes to God must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek him.” (Hebrews 11:6)

Celebrate Recovery®

Discoverying Your Purpose

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for RIGHTEOUSNESS FOR they shall

be satisfied. –Matthew5:6

It is the spirit who gives life; flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak

to you are spirit, and they are life. –John 6:63

On the last day, the climax of holidays, Jesus shouted to the crowds, “If

anyone is THIRSTY; let him come to me and drink. For the Scriptures declare

that rivers of living water shall flow from the inmost being of anyone who

believes in me. John 7:37..

…”anyone who drinks this water will soon become thirsty again but those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.” John 4:13

I can’t help but notice how many people have expressed the overwhelming excitement that god is doing something “big” in their lives. That something is often vague and unclear, but when they talk about it they light up with anticipation what our pastor calls “giddy”. Yet because of the enormity of the “something” there is an underlying sense of fear.

Interestingly, when I was in Indonesia, our team was asked to teach a group of young people on the wide open topic of “Maximum Satisfaction”. I noticed that in the first scripture I found on the subject, Jesus says that you are blessed if you hunger and thirst for righteousness, because you will be satisfied. It seemed that key to satisfaction was having a thirst and a hunger. (more…)