Patterns in Codependency
What is Codependency?
These patterns and characteristics are offered as a tool to aid in selfevaluation.
They may be particularly helpful to newcomers as they begin to
understand codependency and may aid those who have been in recovery a
while to determine what traits still need attention and transformation.
- · I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.
- · I minimize, alter, or deny how I truly feel.
- · I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well
being of others.
Low Self Esteem Patterns:
- · I have difficulty making decisions.
- · I judge everything I think, say, or do harshly, as never “good enough.”
- · I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts.
- · I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.
- · I value other’s approval of my thinking, feelings, and behaviors over
- · I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person.
- · I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others’
- · I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.
- · I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
- · I value others’ opinions and feelings more than my own and am often
afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own.
- · I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others
- · I accept sex when I want love.
- · I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves.
- · I attempt to convince others of what they “should” think and how they
- · I become resentful when others will not let me help them.
- · I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked.
- · I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about.
- · I use sex to gain approval and acceptance.
- · I have to be “needed” in order to have a relationship with others. (for more click here)
-Celebrate Recovery ®
Revised 2004-08-21 CoDep Patterns-1